By Oyinkansayo Wole-Bodunde.
Temi Otedola, daughter of billionaire Femi Otedola, has created a heated debate on social media by changing her surname to Ajibade after marrying Nigerian singer, Mr Eazi.
The couple’s wedding celebrations, which blended Nigerian culture with international flair, were held across Monaco, Dubai, and Iceland.
Temi’s decision to change her surname to her husband’s surname has led to discussions around identity, culture, and marriage expectations in Nigeria.
The debate centers around whether a woman should take her husband’s surname or keep her maiden name. Some argue it’s a matter of personal choice, while others see it as a symbol of femininity, commitment, or submission.
Feminist commentator Rachelle (@omo_kosoko) previously argued that women should keep their names after marriage. She said, “To every girl who is considering getting married, you CAN absolutely keep your name after marriage, and I think you should. Four years married now, I have relocated, had a baby, held a joint account, travelled solo with my child and not one issue. Don’t let anyone lie to you.”
Reactions came from different angles. @innershift05 said, “A name doesn’t hold a marriage together, character, loyalty, and shared vision do. Keep your name or change it, what matters is building a union that can’t be broken.”
@NihinlolaOlowe said, “Changing surname after marriage is Western culture, not African. In Nigeria, it’s not compulsory by law. Temi Otedola chose to change hers; that’s her decision. Respect women’s choices, don’t insult them.”
@Mr_DaveChigozie said, “Congratulations to her, that’s how feminine women move. They embrace their husband fully. As a man make sure you marry a woman that will embrace your surname fully.”
King_Otega said, “Poor man daughter go say she must keep her papa name o.” Makanakiiil said, “As she should!!! All of you poor masses saying you wouldn’t drop your father’s name, why not live and kpai with your father. Many of una no even dey proud of una papa name cos the man no get money.”
Chubbitee said, “That’s a choice she chose. Let others make their choices too.”
lucas_ugoh said, “When a woman genuinely loves a man she respects and honours him.”
Femi Otedola’s advice to his daughter also led to controversy. He said, “You have to succumb to your husband, he’s your boss.” Some saw this as traditional guidance, while others viewed it as an affectionate advice.
